Tips and Tricks
Anger Control
Play the ACE of anger and avoid being RUDE
Friendship Skills
A few solid tips for being a good friend
Mindful tips developed by John F. Taylor, PhD
Play the ACE of Anger
Adapt to the situation
- I create my anger
- I can use it any way I want
- to hurt others or self
- to help others or self
- Anger warns me that I have a problem to resolve
- I can change my approach so I won’t be so frustrated
Confront means to talk
- I can use the energy from anger to
- tell them to please stop
- tell them what I want them to please do instead
- tell them how I will support their change
- talk to an adult
Escape means
Deciding to leave the situation: talk to an adult first
Avoid being RUDE
Repeated useless venting
- pillow punching
- rehearsing the anger
- not confronting
Under-expressing the anger
Dumping on others, pets, etc.
Exaggerating often results in loss of control
From Anger Control Training for Children and Teens
Friendship Skills
Talk about your friend
Friend chooses what to play
Talk about your friend’s topics
Instead of “hogging the ball,” take turns
Show you’re happy that your friend is happy
Let your friend control his/her half; don’t be the “boss”
Be a friendly host; practice meeting the friend’s needs
Use the politeness words “please” and “thank you”
Feed the friend; have supervised kitchen fun
Give small appropriate gifts and share
Friend says when to stop
Do small favors
From Helping Your ADD Child